Lesbian Photo Shoot

I’m a junky for photo shoots. When Terra and I were engaged and planning, I remember her asking what was important to me about our wedding. I told her just to get married and to have some great photos to show it off. For her, all she wanted was to get married and have a honeymoon. Spoiler alert, of those three things, the only one we nailed was getting married. I mean, we saved a bundle and we got married on our timeline, but our photos were done by my dear friend. I’m certainly thankful for them, but they aren’t an editorial spread by any means. You can see more here.

Rewind a little bit and we did the same damn thing when it came to engagement photos, except this time we used one of Terra’s friends. Again, totally decent, just not the professional photographer experience or product. You can see more here.

This summer, I figured we earned it. I wanted one, just us, no rush, fashionable, but relaxed professional photo session with someone awesome. After a little back and forth I chose a local guy that Terra actually went to high school with, Jeremiah Andrews Photography. His stuff is fun, a bit edgy, and high quality. Exactly what I was looking for. We decided on doing a more urban shoot. He and his wife/coworker Shaunna took us to four locations. I was consistently impressed with his work flow. Like seriously, I don’t think he wasted a single click. He got lots of great shots in several poses in all four locations and still had us headed back home within 45 minutes. Impressive. He kept us lose and laughing and ready to be fake models. Y’all I was living my goddamn insta dreams. Check out some of my favorites and hey, if you’ve got a sec, go visit his site, facebook, instagram, or travel instagram.

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What I Wore Wednesday

What better way to get back in the swing of things than a trusty, ol’ #whatiworewednesday? Bish, you know you like it. Or maybe not, but whatever.

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My career has that happy balance for me in regards to style. I work basically by myself aside from all the meetings and appointments sprinkled throughout the week. Generally speaking, I  know basically who I will see, what I will be focused on and dress accordingly for those pre-planned engagements. I also have to be semi-ready to do or redo a room layout, clean, or hell, shovel snow. That ends up meaning  I wear a lot of jeans, but try to dress it up with a blazer. Like every day.

Honestly, it works perfectly for running an artsy nonprofit. Today, I’m pretty sure I get double artsy points for a.) a scarf, and b.) putting a bird on said scarf. Aside from that, I kept it business casual (even casual Friday-esqu) with stretchy skinny jeans, flat shoes and a flowy blouse. I top it with a blazer to show I am ready for business when half my board shows up this afternoon for a programming committee meeting. But you can bet your ass my outfit choice can still hang if I have to attempt to repair a bathroom or mop the gallery. Both of which should probably be done right now….

Thanks for hangin’!




Dream Job: II

If you are like me and most the millennials in America, your career life looks something like your dating life. There have been some really short-term flings, some flat-out disasters, some that seemed right but weren’t after you got into it, and some that were worth commitment. The older generations love to look at this as a huge character flaw, as thought it shows an unwillingness to commit. I see it as the exact opposite. In the same way we date several partners before finding THE partner, we try different jobs. It’s not that a person like me doesn’t want to commit, I DO! I just want to really commit to the right things. I dive in wholeheartedly, ready to commit, in most things. A few weeks/months in, compatibility details increasingly unfold. For me, whether a job or mate, that’s when you know if you can keep going or not. With Terra I knew every day and every month, there was no turning back. No matter how many times we bump heads, that’s the person for me for the long haul.

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At The Knot Couture Show in Las Vegas, Aug 2017

In my latest post about my “Dream Job,” I was also very optimistic that I had found a long term career. I got to do marketing, branding, writing, be around art, had the promise of travel, and it was all in a field I enjoyed–fashion. The less compatible aspects included broken financial and advancement promises, a weak business plan that I couldn’t get behind, the management style and the fact that I was being ushered from the creative world of marketing, branding AND sales, to just 10 hour shifts of cold-calling sales. Alas, I voluntarily left my short stint in the fashion industry.

Ulta Bathroom Selfie 😛 December, 2017

When I left, I had several interviews lined up, but not anything official. I thank my lucky stars I pulled it off and only had about 3 days off work total. I picked up a seasonal, part time gig at Ulta (literally no training, but sweet discounts, btw) to help with the holiday season, and within another week or so I accepted the position as the director at a local, nonprofit arts and culture center. The Ulta thing ended in January so no I am full time (and then some) at the arts center. Remember all those things I loved about my job working for a bridal label: marketing, branding, writing, be around art, had the promise of travel, and it was all in a field I enjoyed? I have all of that again. And once again, I am optimistic.

Me, absolutely giddy with one of my artists at our gallery opening, March 2018



Self Love Week

Look at me now, two posts in one day!

Under normal circumstances I’d write this but schedule it for tomorrow, but it’s time sensitive as I’m already a few days behind. I LOVE a good social media based challenge. I have done a couple whether for health or writing or photos or art or self love and it’s great way to find connect with people of similar interests and gain new followers. You know if you’re shallow enough to care about such things. 😛 😉

My favorite of all the challenges are definitely the self love ones. No matter where I’m at, those challenges always come at a good time. It’s always beneficial. I always grow and I always get to learn about other women and what they are doing to be totally awesome in the world.

I stumbled up on this particular challenge after seeing day one posted by my ex-husband’s cousin’s wife. (That’s a thing). Her photo was captivating her essay of a caption was compelling and after an other day or so of watching I had to join in, even if late.


It’s only day three, so join in. Do the first two days of challenges like I did, or just go right for challenge 3 (Spoiler alert: It’s treat yo’self!). If nothing else, check out mine or #selfloveweek and read some cool shit from the hearts of some amazing women. Click on my picture above to go straight to source of the challenge, the Instagram page of Mel Wells.

Side note, even if i go totally silent on the actual blog, I typically use insta as my mini blog and you can follow the life and times of my two mom crew.



Shit you guys.

It happened again. I went like a hundred days without writing a goddamn thing. It’s like I was busy getting married to the love of my life or something. And then maybe raising 4 babies with her. Oh. Yeah. That is what I was doing. Don’t you dare come at me with your, “I know this girl with 8 kids and 17 dogs and she writes every day” nonsense, ‘cuz I already know. And you already know I’m not the kind of blogger. But guess what, I’m tryin. Again.

Let’s recap, shall we?

In my absence I got to….

Legally, actually fucking marry my dream girl:



Have a few adventures:


Send these little ducks back to school:


Oh and I got ranked as one of the top 100 LGBT bloggers of 2017. I’ll try to actually blog to hold onto my title. 😉