Pride Month

It’s weird, but I really do forget how recently I actually came out. This is only my second June to be completely out there living a super gay life. In 2015 I was separated from my ex-husband, and knew which direction I was headed, but most the world did not. Last year Terra and I did go on the Lake Coeur d’Alene Pride Cruise, went to Spokane Pride with my littles, and then went to Seattle Pride. We had only been together three months, but she asked me to go to Seattle Pride with her within our first couple of days talking to each other. I also moved in with her last June.

Last Pride Month (also referred to as “June” by straight people) I was still getting my bearings. I was adjusting to being so out. I was learning about Pride. I was mourning and yet anxious over Pulse. Hell, I was still getting to know Terra, figuring her out and deciphering her Pride style. At the events we attended, we were also watching out for ex gfs, balancing friends, meeting people, and otherwise just not fully engaged on ourselves.

This year is so different. We both know what we want and verbalize that to each other. We typically agree, but have no problems checking out whatever the other is interested in. if she wants to go to the Seattle Pride White Party and I want to raise a sign at the Dyke March, we’ll do both. And enjoy both. We had a blast at this year’s Pride Cruise on Lake Coeur d’Alene. It didn’t seem as packed at last year but I just really enjoy that event. We had glorious weather and it’s a fantastic kick-off to summer and Pride. Rainbows and sunshine and beer and friends out on the Lake, what could be better?!

My friend (and maid of honor!) Holly came up and joined us. She is the BEST at making sure to take lots and lots of pictures. I should be way better at it, but at least I have her. And she always ends up getting some good ones of Terra and me. They aren’t always posed, but she even buzzed on cheap beer and armed with just her phone, she captures the joy and love between us. Proof:pride cruise kisspride cruise laure and terrapride cruise 2017 2

Maybe this last one seems like an odd pick. We don’t even know we are being photographed, but that’s just it. We are just so into each other we aren’t even aware of Holl’s shenanigans. You can’t fully see our faces, but you can tell exactly how we are looking at each other. The way Terra has her hand on me just makes me swoon.

This last week it was Spokane Pride. You guys, we were supposed to march at the very front. I ruined that by losing my things and thus causing us to be completely late, but that’s my life. :/ We still made it to wander around and gay it up in not only Terra’s rainbow hair, but also my own. spokane pride

I’ll update you all as more Pride things come along, but just know this year, we are doing Pride exactly right and LOVING it. Happy Pride month. signoff

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It’s been awhile since I did a What I Wore Wednesday. Frankly, it’s not even out of laziness, I just think they are… well, effing boring. Same shit, different day. I can promise you with the exception of the last time I wrote a What I Wore Wednesday, I have worn tall dark boots, black skinnies, some flowy-ish shirt, and a peacoat. That’s it. Today though, I actually really like my outfit. I got to play around a bit more since the snow has melted down enough that a person can mostly walk on pavement and we shouldn’t get another friggin blizzard until at least tomorrow. I seized the chance to wear something other than the same two pairs of boots I’ve alternated between since October (September?…). Yay. Go me. So anyway, here’s my outfit of the day. It’s my perfect mix of Pacific Northwestern, trendy, casual but still able to get away with for work, comfortable, lesbianish and (I think) cute. img-set

Black Skinny Jeans, Blue and Teal Flannel, Burgundy Puffy Vest, Tan Chukka’s, Grey Canvas and Brown Leather Backpack and simple accessories. Including my engagement ring! My FIANCE gave it to me (the same as her’s) yesterday. Yay again. 🙂signoff

Pub Crawlin’

Around these parts the weekend before St. Patrick’s Day is pretty big deal. Our local main street America program has one of its more jolly fundraisers of the year: a pub crawl. That’s right, friends, I get to don some gay green apparel and drink to my heart’s content all in the name of community involvement and support. I’m actually not kidding. It’s one of the biggest money makers for the organization, and doesn’t take a huge investment on their part. You just walk around to and through our downtown bars with all your favorite homies, and the entry fee includes your cab ride home. Throughout the evening there are some games, prizes, snack, water and, of course, green beer and drink specials. Literally, what’s not to love. If you can’t tell, I’m rather excited.

GF’s last gf wasn’t me and didn’t really share my enthusiasm for the Pub Crawl so this is her very first time to go in the event’s 6 years of existence. I’m delighted to show her the ropes with so many of our favorite people.

All the straight girls are putting a lot of consideration into their outfits; cutting up their free t-shirts into sex kitten masterpieces, constructing poofy, matching tutus and *maybe* buying up every other green glittery hat, headband, and piece of jewelry they can find. That’s not exactly my style and the idea of maintaining a tutus for hours of drinking is my hell, but I figure I should begin putting together my own dyke-chic ensemble. This is what I came up with. c600x715.jpg

It’s perfect for tromping around rather buzzed up, but has my perfect mix of styles and has just a touch of festive rainbow. Hell, i may even wear rainbow socks too.

Happy early St. Patrick’s Day!

Elle

What I Wore Wednesday: Fake Spring & Lesbian Labels

Happy First Wednesday in March, which apparently means basically spring.  In my strange little corner of the Pacific Northwest, it’s a sunny 60 degrees out.

I wore my “nice” black leggings, cuz that’s what I do, with a grey, floral, flowy blouse, a plain white cardigan, and simple black ballet flats all paired with some classic jewelry. I’m feeling a bit easy-breezy-Covergirl.c600x851.jpg

Looking back over my What I Wore Wednesdays, however hit and miss they have been, there is one standing similarity: They are all pretty standard, business casual, feminine outfits. The weeks and weather change but you’re pretty much looking at leggings or skinnies, a blousey top, and feminine shoes.That’s it. Not terrible innovative or exciting. A career in sales in a small, conservative community doesn’t allow for much else. Even my tiny little nose hoop is a push for some clients.

Today I give you two outfit sets: One my work wear… and one that is what I may just wear for a date tonight with that hot blonde of mine.

It’s kind of a confusing thing being a lesbian. It feels sometimes like you have to find your place on this perceived butch-femme spectrum and stick to it. I’m just not about that life. While I don’t anticipate ever coming off as hardcore butch, you definitely aren’t likely to catch me in fake nails with some froofy dress/stiletto combo. But then all the middle ground descriptors are far more complicated than I care to be. Chapstick femme? Butchy femme? Just plain androgynous? I mean, which one is it if I wear lip GLOSS… but with a snap back. I don’t know. A blue jeans femme? I read that once. I don’t even think it’s a thing.  Maybe you have to be a total veteran lesbian to know the answers to these mysteries. Until then I’ll be bouncing around from femme business casual to non-descript sweatpants slob to off-track derby bitch to what my former pastor not-so-fondly calls “lumberjack dyke.” 😉

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Cheers.

Elle